I dedicate this post to all of the mothers and mothers-in-spirit out there. I dedicate this especially to my Mom – thanks for making sure that I’m Never Alone.
I am sitting here, sniffling, and heart swelling with love as I listen yet again to a new song that my friend sent to me a couple days ago – Never Alone sung by Lady Antebellum. The video makes me cry because of all the images of families and friends and people together – never alone.
This post has been floating around in my head since then, especially when I listen to the song. Mother’s Day is this weekend and this song speaks to me particularly of a Mother’s Love:
- So many wishes and dreams we have for our children are found in the lyrics of this song – prayers that they will be safe, never hungry, and always happy, with good friends and love surrounding them. Even when they are far away from us, they are in our hearts, ALWAYS. 24/7 – I didn’t know what that meant until I held my babies in my arms.
- It makes me think of my own mother – how she is so much my mother, even when she didn’t have to be. How to this very day, even though I am a grown woman she is there for me – whenever, wherever. She’ll drop EVERYTHING and will be there with advice, support, and strength. Whenever I need it, and even when I don’t know I need it. She made me who I am, and I am thankful that she came into my life.
- My sisters – beautiful women who stay at home to be full-time Moms – baking cookies, volunteering at school, helping out at kids’ activities all the time who worry sometimes that they are not good enough – I can’t imagine that – they are so much better than me at being “Mom”.
- My sister-in-law – another gorgeous woman who tries so hard and succeeds at being a great mom, even when it’s not easy. I admire her determination to always do the right thing, regardless of how hard it is.
- My girlfriends – I am privileged to know women from so many different walks of life – single moms, stay at home moms, working moms, women of faith, women that struggle with faith, women that have loved, lost and loved again, women rebuilding, women who are amazing moms, moms that make mistakes, women with fear and women that are fearless. We have each been all of these.
I have been a good mother and a bad mother: I have loved my children so fiercely that I have fought for them, lost hours of sleep, run myself ragged to sew one more button, kissed away a million tears, read the same story over and over, volunteered for one more thing even when I didn’t have time and I would lay down my life for them. I have forgotten a child while caring for another, I have yelled, I have bribed, I have set a bad example, I have hid in my room just to get away, I have fed them ice cream for supper, or skipped it entirely, I have missed parent-teacher interviews and field trips, I have said bad words in front of them, I have made oh, so many mistakes.
I have read stories written by other moms who have done the same things, made the same mistakes, who long to be good mothers too. I’ve seen ones that have posted pictures of messy kitchen tables that look so much like my own. Talked to friends who admit they’ve spanked a child in anger. I have listened to a friend remember a lost child on the anniversary of her death who lives on forever in her heart. I have read stories from other moms who have realized the value of little moments of childhood and cherish them for the gifts they are. I have cried at the painful words of moms that have battled with depression and alcoholism, trying desperately to cope, and be there for their children.
I have written letters of love to each of my children, grateful for having them in my life, knowing how blessed I am. I have wept and comforted mothers as they’ve criticized themselves for not being perfect. I have admired those single moms who do so much better than I at relishing the time with their children because they are splitting the time with them with their ex-spouse and how they always put their kids first, despite the hurt. I have laughed at the silliest stories, written and verbal, from moms that have learned to laugh at the crazy every day antics of their precious ones. There are the women that aren’t even moms yet, raising their voices to empower moms all over the world to stop the violence against women and that if you support a mother, you are supporting a village.
This song brings all of these thoughts to my mind as I realize the true depth of a Mother’s Love. These lyrics speak of the dedication and commitment that mother’s have to their children. Vowing to NEVER, EVER let them be alone. We are always there, even when it hurts, in good times and bad. We are there together, side by side, mothers and mothers-in-spirit, young and old, guiding and protecting. What a world this is when we are together…never alone.
So when hard times have found you
And your fears surround you
Wrap my love around you
You’re never alone