I love my showers on a non-busy weekend – I get to take my time and enjoy it. Inevitably, I “think”.
Today, I was thinking about money. It seems everyone thinks about money (and lack thereof) at this time of year. I think that’s sad; that’s not what this time of year should be about. I have caught myself thinking about money too much lately. It stopped me in the shower when I thought of money in a different way.
Does money make me happy? Does money make me unhappy? What is it that I should be thinking about in terms of money?
Money is indirectly related to what really makes me happy. And that is what I think I should focus on. Let me give you some examples:
- Money buys me healthy, quality food that I enjoy eating. Occasionally, it allows me to eat out with friends and family as a treat, not a routine. I’m able to put a variety of food on our table and try new things.
- Money has given me a beautiful house that I love – it is not huge, it is not fancy. It shelters us more than adequately and I believe that it is somewhere that my family, my friends and I want to be. I don’t need a huge house with perfect furniture and flooring. That doesn’t make me happy. It’s comfy, in a small town and it’s “me” and that’s what makes me happy.
- Money buys me an iPhone and computers – these are not “needs”, for sure. But these things enable me to make friends all over the world, it enables me to write, read and play; all of which make me happy.
- Money buys me the few clothes that I want: I have a few pair of shoes, workout clothing, stretchy jeans and some pretty tops. My closet isn’t stuffed with clothes in an attempt to be “in fashion”. That doesn’t make me happy at all. I want simple, functional clothes that make me feel good in my own skin. I really don’t care if I have Ralph Lauren or Polo or whatever the brands are. I’m not spending money on that
- Money bought me my bike that I love to ride. I don’t have a new car. I used to think that I wanted a new car, something with leather interior and smooth lines. Then I realized the “why” – I wanted to be like everyone else. I don’t even really like driving, so why would I want a car for anything other than to get me where I need to go?
- Money has got me vacations with my family and friends. I want to go places and explore new things. Money enables me to do that. I don’t have to have a Disney vacation every year; if I did, it wouldn’t be special anymore. Vacations should be far from routine.
- Money allows me to get my kids things that they need and some things that they want. They don’t have all the latest gadgets, nor the fashions and toys that some of their friends have. But, I don’t think they really miss it either. I tried buying my kids tons of things. It was never enough. Most of it was touched once, and then never again. I’ve given away clothes that they never even wore! That’s shameful, in my opinion.
These are the things that money allows for me. I need to focus on these things. If I have enough money to cover these things, then I am happy. I don’t need more money for more things. I refuse to waste any more money just trying to keep up with what everyone else does/has. There is never an end to the idea of keeping up with them. There will always, always be someone with something more.
At this time of year, I have stopped thinking about all the stuff I cannot buy. I have purchased a few things that I know the recipients will love and appreciate and even some things that give to others at the same time! I am making a few more things that are from my heart to them.
I refuse to run around buying people stuff just because I think I have to. I am buying what I can afford and nothing more. In fact, I am done my shopping for the year and Ii don’t have a ton of stuff to wrap. There will be people that may not understand, and I’m sorry about that; but this is what I think is best for me and my family right now. I am focusing on what this time of year REALLY means and not the commercial idea that it has become.
This past year, my thoughts on money has completely changed. I still have days where it causes me stress. It has made me rethink what I am willing to do for money. It has made me rethink my work. I am not willing to sacrifice everything for money. My job gives me ample money for what I really need and want. I am thankful for that. However, I will not allow it to cause me stress and affect my life in a negative way anymore. I am working towards having the lifestyle I want yet do what I love. That is my new goal.
Anyway, I’m rambling, post shower, on a lazy Saturday at home with my gang! I am very blessed and very happy. The purpose of this post, I hope, is to inspire you to think of money in a different way; especially at this time of year. Thanks for hanging out with me and my gang today! 😉